I can’t wait to get married. We should already be married, but it never seems like the right time. We are in a ton of debt, living paycheck to paycheck and to be honest weddings are expensive. We are simple, I don’t want some huge extravagant thing. I just want a simple church wedding followed by a little time spent with those closest to us. I looked into reception venues and they are ridiculously expensive. Plus then you have a dance floor and need a dj/band which makes the costs add up even more! Add to that the fact that we are planning something intimate with maybe 35 guests which most of those places only do minimums of 75+. So we have decided for getting married at our church, and then going to our friend’s clubhouse in her complex and just having it catered.
But when did getting married become so difficult and expensive? Sure, we could do the courthouse, but I want my close family and friends to be included. I want my children to be a part of the ceremony and really involved. I want my dad to walk me down an aisle. I want a dress. I want my marriage. But for people who don’t have a lot, it’s difficult.
Especially because I am in no way crafty. Like could mess up a 5 year old’s school project. It’s embarrassing. I’m not artsy in the slightest. I couldn’t “DIY” myself out of a paper bag. Plus, as a stay at home mom to 3 crazies I barely find the time to shower let alone spend hours doing that.
So how can you get married on a strict budget? When did marriage become something for companies to capitalize on? Even just getting a priest to come to a location is like $400! This is all not even counting the dress, flowers, photography, favors, etc. It’s no wonder people spend $10,000+ on weddings but I can’t imagine that. That, to me, is a down payment on a house, a new car, an awesome family trip or two.
So when did it change from beginning a lifelong journey with family and friends to spending a small fortune to put on a huge event? When did it become more about the wedding than the marriage. I want my wedding but more than that I want my marriage. My forever. My happy ending. And I don’t want to spend my life savings on it.